I think the Golden Girls and Boys are worth looking into. Or just their looks? That is sociopathic and criminal. I learnt this the hard way. Gender Gender Male Female.
Translation: You should be cultivating friendships like your life depends on it. I have been there. None of this has ever been hidden while dating and some men even thanked me for being so upfront and honest about who I am and what I want. This is quite different from "role model" concepts of early development which emphasize the same-sex parent.
Have boundaries while being real.